The emotional tensions many divorcees face when considering love again became the central focus of a recent episode of Joy Prime TV’s relationship show ‘Let’s Talk’.
The discussion was triggered by the heartfelt message of a 46 year old man who said he longs for companionship but remains afraid of reliving the pain of his previous marriage.
The man, divorced for six years, described a daily struggle with loneliness. “The loneliness bites me so deep sometimes,” he wrote.
“The silence in my room, the empty side of the bed… as much as I crave for love again, I’m scared, truly scared.” He recounted the wounds left by his former marriage, including “the arguments, the betrayal, the disappointment, the feeling that I wasn’t enough to love somebody so much.”
Counsellor Perfect, Reverend Daniel Anan and Auntie Patricia Poku agreed that the man’s fears reflect a common challenge among people recovering from divorce.
They explained that his fear signals that he may not yet be ready for a new commitment and stressed the need for complete healing. Patricia Poku urged the man to reflect on his own role in the failed marriage. She said he should “highlight what is it that he was able to contribute to this relationship.” She likened marriage to a boxing ring, saying partners often end up “fighting the ghosts of their past,” and recommended counselling to address unresolved childhood triggers.
Counsellor Perfect noted that marriage carries risks, including divorce, and highlighted the “disillusionment” phase where old traumas rise to the surface. She warned that entering a new relationship without healing can lead to a “rebound relationship” that may harm the next partner.
Reverend Daniel Anan outlined a healing path that starts with spiritual and mental grounding. He said fear “stems from the point of naivity” and that overcoming it requires knowing yourself, understanding women and appreciating what marriage truly is.
The panel also discussed a growing trend, often seen on social media, where divorced people seek companionship without the formal commitment of marriage. Counsellor Perfect explained that companionship “doesn’t come with the total commitments,” while marriage carries spiritual, legal and full obligations, making it more difficult to walk away from.
Reverend Anan closed the segment by reminding viewers that marriage, created by God, is “one of the best things God ever created,” and encouraged men not to fear commitment.
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