The Brotherhood came alive this Thursday with a vibrant and thought-provoking discussion on a hot topic: “Must you attend every event, concert, or festive outing with your partner?”
Host Kofi Hayford set the tone with a playful but pointed question: “Must you go everywhere with your handbag?”
Alvin began by firmly stating, “No. Some events are for men only.”
He argued that many festive-season gatherings are overly crowded, loud, and physically intense, making them unsafe or uncomfortable for couples. Using the Global Citizen Festival as an example, he said he would prefer attending with his partner only for safety reasons. His points focused strongly on security and cost considerations.
Zeal followed with a personal anecdote: a friend attended an event with his girlfriend, only for her to leave with another man. Because of incidents like this, he said he would not allow his partner to attend overly “cloudy and loud” events this season. His comment sparked a mix of shock, laughter, and debate among the panelists.
MC Wayne took a different approach. He said he would be happy to take his partner to every event, but with exceptions. Given the nature of his job as an MC, he explained, “I may leave her with my twin brother” if work demands his attention. He emphasised communication, saying he would always ask his partner whether she wanted to attend or not.
The debate intensified when Zeal suggested that many partners assume their significant others who attend events alone are cheating. Both Kofi and Alvin disagreed, arguing that independence does not equate to unfaithfulness.
Kofi added a lighter, more practical point: going out with your partner can be beneficial, especially if you cannot afford a videographer. According to him, a supportive partner can help capture videos and photos during events.
This sparked playful banter when Alvin reiterated his belief that “in the face of danger, it is better to care for yourself.” He insisted that it is sometimes safer to go out alone. MC Wayne countered by saying that women also have their own plans and outings with friends, making it normal not to attend everything together.
This episode of The Brotherhood proved to be both intriguing and informative. The panelists’ differing viewpoints, from safety concerns to trust issues to work realities, offered listeners plenty to reflect on as the festive season approaches.
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